The Unplugged Alpha

069 - Breaking Up With a Covert Narcissist

Paul from Apex Mindset, and Divorce Lawyer, Jonathan C Noble Esq join me today to talk about breaking up with, and divorcing a Covert Narcissist, and why they need special treatment, ESPECIALLY in family law...
Top female narcissist behaviors (these do NOT establish Narcissistic
Personality Disorder, but they are narcissistic clues to have on your
radar). In no special order:
1) Overly competitive / jealous. “Look what my friend Rita got for
Valentine’s Day from her husband. WHAT DID YOU GET ME?”.
2) Overly concerned with her appearance. – cosmetic surgery,
cosmetic dental work, lots of makeup, hair extensions, etc.
3) Materialistic – love spending $. Clothes, cars, handbags, jewelry,
Love to flaunt and talk about what they have (even if it is paid on
credit).
4) Thinks others are jealous of her. This feeds her ego.
5) She is overly sensitive to criticism. Insanely defensive.
6) She has a false sense of superiority. It is laughable to you when
you see this, but the narcissist has zero sense of self awareness
and really believes what she is saying. (Example: a woman in her
50’s or even 60’s really thinks she is still competing with a 30 year
old on the SMV scale).
7) She is a drama queen. Bores quickly. Even insignificant events get
blown out of proportion.
8) Triangulation – Loves to create problems then she pits people
against each other. Even between their own children.
9) She has a shameless disregard for boundries, but demands you are
in strict compliance with her wishes.
10) She gaslights you. “I never said that”.... you may be doubting
your own reality.
You feel like want to record your conversations with her to play for
her later when she denies what she said.
11) Tries to make you feel like you are never enough. Belittles you
during devaluation, discard stage.
12) She has a constant need for validation from you and everyone
else around.
13) Long series of broken relationships. Serial dater. High body
count.
14) She cannot stand not being in control of you. This can trigger
narcissist rage when you stand firm.
15) She plays the victim and wants you to sympathize with her.
16) Many other red flags to watch out for......

068 - How Men Jeopardize Relationships & Get Dumped

Most men start off in a strong frame, early in relationships, then through a process of betatization by 1,000 concessions, he becomes unattractive to his girlfriend or wife.
Maintaining frame is paramount to a strong LTR, and most men get it wrong
Some areas I'll cover include, but aren't limited to:
- Inviting a problem woman into your life
- Becoming 'exclusive' fast
- Not spinning plates, or bringing up 'where do we stand' before she does
- Saying 'yes' too often, and not saying 'no' enough
- Failing her shit tests
- Being too needy
- Lacking in conventional male competency skills
- Not enforcing boundaries with male friends & social media
- Getting involved with a woman higher than your own SMV
- Letting the alpha widow enter your relationship
- Making her your everything
- Losing contact with his friends, and hobbies

067 - U.S. Divorce Law Exposed w/ Jonathan C. Noble, Esq.

During this broadcast, family lawyer Jonathan C Noble joins me to discuss what men need to know about marriage and family law before getting married in the US

066 - Anxiety & Self Sabotage

Join me and Ryan Christensen from hypnosisformen.net as we uncover ways men create train wrecks out of life from anxiety & the self sabotage that follows.
Our talking points include, but aren't limited to...
- A lot of guys who are in this part of the web are looking for answers, and looking to change their lives.
- A lot of these guys are struggling with anxiety, depression, and other self-sabotaging behaviors.
- There's a lot of good material out there designed to get guys taking action: "Do The Work", how to overcome approach anxiety, etc.
- Those mechanisms will generally work well for most guys who have previously had success, or who already have embraced being uncomfortable.
- Other men struggle with higher levels of anxiety, have failed more often in the past. They're carrying a lot more baggage.
- For men like that, "get over it" isn't effective advice. Most behavior or habit based methods require willpower for a time that they simply don't have due to a long history of things that have failed.
- In other cases, there's a pattern of self sabotage - think of starting stuff and walking away, or deliberately choosing targets you can't hit ("I only go after 9s and 10s even though I'm a 3")
- In both instances there's an unconscious pattern at work designed to keep them from harm in some manner - even if it's keeping them in a shitty place or keeping them from what they want consciously
- In men that suffer from those issues, the unconscious mind is less open to change because it has a much more evidence of possible harm, and weights it much more highly
- So unless they have constant support it's hard to make change. This could be in person coaching and in field support, therapy, etc. Online communities only help so much.
- Hypnosis on the other hand works directly on that unconscious level, and bypass the critical factor. The critical factor is that filter between the conscious and unconscious mind that determines what the unconscious will accept as true.
- Because of this, we can rapidly figure out where that anxiety or self sabotage originates, and what it's trying to do to help that person
- Once that happens, we can create new solutions to those old problems that get them better results.
- In addition, it's common to release a lot of built up trauma, anger, etc that's being carried around. That creates a lot more space and energy, so doing things becomes a LOT easier.

065 - Should I Take My Ex Back

Topic suggestion from "Sebastian" who said: Women that try to suck you back into their life once you’ve left them and why it’s never a good idea. They will make all kinds of claims, use the most convincing forms of manipulation once they see you doing better/not giving them your attention, then when you do take them back, it’s the same as before. And men wonder why they keep having the same problems.
During this show I will cover:
- Why it's generally a bad idea to take an ex back
- When you absolutely shouldn't take an ex back
- How to get her out of your house & life for good
- When it might be appropriate to give her a second chance

064 - How Media Weakens Men

Media influence comes at men from different angles, but ultimately facilitates weakness, in this broadcast I'll cover this topic and touch on how the following impacts you
Social Media - Placating to causes & ideas that distract you from mental point of origin
Video Games - Men need to compete & win in real life.
Netflix - Most modern shows facilitate worshiping a female primary social order
Adult Entertainment - TBD
Estrogenics - Most products promoted are estrogenic to men
Mainstream media - With the exception of a handful of outlets, and broadcasters, MSM doesn't facilitate a man making himself his own mental point of origin
Outrage mobs - TBD
Defeatists - TBD
Mainstream education - TBD
Plus much more...

063 - Why You Lose At Life & How To Win

Men are masters of complicating their lives, and then justify why they do it. In this installment of "before the train wreck" I am going to show you how to win at life, and not be a loser.
Some topics I'm going to cover, include, but aren't limited to.
Consuming too much "black pill" content
Thinking money & the accumulation of wealth is evil
Subscribing to liberalism/globalism/socialism
Hating libertarianism
Blames the state yet expects them to fix all your problems
Worshiping women
Being a simp
Playing not to lose.
Believing societal programming
Having no purpose in life
Ignoring self care
Being financially irresponsible
Sulking & moaning at the hand you've been dealt
Surrounding yourself with losers
Constantly find problems for every solution
Blames ALL problems on others
Takes no responsibility
Entitlement – the idea that people owe you something
Turns to drugs & alcohol to deal with bad choices

062 - All Q & A Show, Ask Me Anything

All call in show, bring questions.

061 - The Truth About Being a Police Officer

Over the last few weeks, I've been telling men, that are considering getting into law enforcement, and policing to pick a different career. I've had dozens of cops, both retired, and currently working as police offer to talk about this subject, and how the job has changed over the years.
Many have said they will be discouraging their kids from becoming a police officer, todays episode I am joined by several cops, to discuss the topic.

060 - When Men Abandon Hobbies/Friends For Women

In this video I take on the topic of abandoning hobbies/friends for women, and why it often leads to a train wreck from user: "Charles Odowd" below.
Nothing new here but the amount of guys that ditch their male friends and predominantly male organizations when they get a new girl is ridiculous. When a woman wants you to ditch your motorcycle, boat, friends, shooting club whatever, I can't understand how men don't see that as an overt attack on their wellbeing. I know this has been covered by you before but I still see it everyday and when the woman leaves the guy is left alone, without support and sometimes suicidal. And.... Did she ditch her friends and social life.... Oh hell no. Hahaha